CONTINUOUS EFFORTS TO SUCCESS!

A stone is broken by the last stroke of hammer. This doesn't mean that the first stroke is useless. Success is a result of continuous efforts.

ACADEMIC EXCELLENCE IS OVERRATED!

Loyani Kisula Loyani
Founder and CEO of loyanie.com

Prof. Abletor Sedofia from University of Ghana has this to say to us: 
"Academic excellence is overrated! I said it. Being top of your class does not necessarily guarantee that you will be at the top of life. You could graduate as the best student in Finance but
it doesn't mean you will make more money than everybody else. The best graduating Law student does not necessarily become the best lawyer. The fact is life requires more than the ability to 
understand a concept, memorise it and reproduce it in an exam. School rewards people for their memory. Life rewards people for their imagination.
School rewards caution, life rewards daring. School hails those who live by the rules. Life exalts those who break the rules and set new ones. So do I mean people shouldn't study hard in school? Oh, no, you should. But don't sacrifice every other thing on the altar of First Class.
Don't limit yourself to the classroom. Do something practical. Take a leadership position. Start a business and fail. That's a better Entrepreneurship 101.Join or start a club. Contest an election and lose. It will teach you something Political Science 101 will not teach you. Attend a seminar. Read books outside the scope of your course. Go on
missions and win a soul for eternal rewards... Do something you believe in! Think less of becoming an excellent student but think more of becoming an excellent person. Make the world your classroom."

ADVANTAGES OF NOT HAVING A LOVER ! !

ADVANTAGES OF NOT HAVING A LOVER ! !
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1. You can sleep well.
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2. You can save time and money.
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3. No worries about how you look.
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4. No miss calls in the midnight.
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5. No need to recharge more than twice a day.
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6. You can talk to all boys/girls.
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7. You can eat well.
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8. No scoldings from parents/guardians.
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9. Can eat in any restaurant.
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10.You can visit any body.
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11. Can pick any call, any time without being
questioned.
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12. Don't worry about missed calls.
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13. You can do whatever you want.
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14. You don't need to displease yourself to please
anyone.
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10 COMMANDMENTS EVERY MARRIAGE NEEDS!

Being married is a wonderful feeling but it also needs hard work from both partners. Both partners have to decide to make their marriage work and put in everything into making it work.

Below are 10 commandments every marriage needs

1. KEEP THE PAST IN THE PAST

If you want your marriage to work, you have to learn to keep the past in the past. Don’t hold onto mistakes your partner made in the past and also ensure you don’t bring up your partner’s past mistakes when having a misunderstanding with your partner.

2. TRANSPARENCY

Build the foundations of your marriage on honesty. It’s easy to trust if a marriage is built on honesty. If you want your partner to trust you, then you have to learn to be honest.

3. COMPLIMENT YOUR PARTNER DAILY

You have to compliment your partner daily if you want your marriage to work. Learn to appreciate your partner’s efforts no matter how little they may look to you. When your partner feels appreciated, it boosts marital satisfaction.

4. KEEP MONOTONY AWAY FROM YOUR MARRIAGE

Monotony can kill your marriage. Learn to be open to new experiences in your marriage. Doing the same things all the time with your partner can make your marriage boring. Make your marriage exciting and keep it fresh by doing new things with your partner regularly.

5. BE KIND TO YOUR PARTNER NO MATTER WHAT

Whether you are happy, sad or angry, learn to treat your partner with kindness always if you want your marriage to work. Treating your partner with kindness no matter the situation helps improve your relationship with your partner.

6. DON’T MAKE EVERYTHING AN ISSUE

Avoid irrelevant arguments with your partner. Learn to let things go and avoid unnecessary fights with your partner. Save that energy you always use in arguing and put it into better use. You can’t make your marriage work when you always fight with your partner.

7. BE READILY AVAILABLE

Never be too busy for your partner, this kills marriages. Ensure you are always available when your partner needs you. You need to be selfless if you want to have a successful marriage. No matter how busy your schedule is, never be too busy for your partner.

8. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

So many marriages have crashed due to unrealistic expectations. When you understand that your partner isn’t perfect, then you would avoid having unrealistic expectations in your marriage. Having unrealistic expectations can put your partner under unnecessary pressure which can bring conflict and bitterness.

9. FACE-TO-FACE TIME WITH YOUR PARTNER

Texting, calling and other forms of communications are important in a marriage but none can replace having a face-to-face time with your partner. Having a face-to-face time with your partner daily is needed if you desire a healthy marriage.

10. BE PROACTIVE

Learn to be proactive if you desire to have a healthy marriage. Don’t wait for your marriage to crash before fixing it. Always seek for new ways to improve your relationship with your partner. Waiting for things to get bad first isn’t the right thing to do.

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LOVE IS NOT ABOUT SEX!

“Love is a cheap word. Anyone can say it, and few truly know what it means.” ~ Julianna Scott

Love is not about Sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. It's about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can.

Some people think love is just talking kind, warm and cute words to each other, love is just telling “I love you”, is just being together and having fun. But reality is a bit different and love is hard. So what the true love meant to be? It's caring of someone you love, being with him when he needs your help, doing everything to protect and look after him.

To be in love means being patient but to be patient you must trust him first.

Stop trying to know what love means, just live it and experience it. Whether if it is the good or the bad, because trying to know what it is from someone else's meaning, will not have the same meaning to you.

Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)

Loyan!

5 WAYS TO PREVENT A BREAKUP!

A breakup is painful and it hurts even more when you had hoped the relationship would last forever. Are there certain things we can do to prevent a breakup and ensure our relationships and marriages last? There are always warning signs before a breakup but most of us either ignore them or just fail to see them.

So how do we prevent a breakup? Correcting the warning signs is what you should do if you want to prevent a breakup in your relationship.

Below are 5 ways to prevent a breakup

1. BRING BACK THE PASSION

One of the reasons many relationships end is due to lack of passion in the relationship. It’s so easy for people who have been in a relationship for years to lose the passion in the relationship. To prevent the passion in your relationship from fading off, it’s important you and your partner do activities together the both of you love and enjoy. Create time each week to have good fun with your partner.

2. MAKE YOUR PARTNER YOUR PRIORITY

Emotional disconnect in relationships is another reason many relationships crash. When every other thing becomes more important than your partner, you create an emotional disconnect in your relationship and this could lead to a breakup. Make your partner your priority and also try to have good conversations regularly with your partner because this helps bring you closer to your partner and prevent an emotional disconnect.

3. AVOID UNNECESSARY CONFLICTS

Some conflicts in our relationships are unnecessary and could be avoided. If you have any issues with your partner, try discussing it with your partner instead of letting it boil and get out of control. When you are angry about something your partner did, you should talk about it with your partner when you are calmer and in control of yourself. If you have the discussion when you are calmer, you avoid having an outburst as you would be in control of yourself.

4. AVOID UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS

Unspoken expectations could also lead to a breakup so it’s important you avoid this in your relationship. It’s important every expectation in your relationship is agreed and not assumed. Avoid assuming things and try to discuss things with your partner instead. Don’t just assume your partner should meet certain expectations in your relationship.

5. FOCUS MORE ON YOUR CHILD AND IGNORE YOUR PARTNER

This is more common among women in so many marriages. The moment a child is born, she neglects her husband and gives her child all the attention. Doing this would cause problems in your marriage that could lead to a breakup. Your kids shouldn’t come before your partner. You should understand that if you have a solid relationship with your spouse, it would transmit to your kids too.

While these points do not give a 100 per cent guarantee, they would go a long way in helping you avoid a breakup in your relationship.

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YOU KNOW SOMEONE REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU!

Someone who cares will ask you how your day is. They want to know what you’re doing; they want to know if something significant has happened in your life. You don’t have to talk to them all the time, but when you do see them, they will want to know how you are. Not out of some sort of obligation, but because they genuinely want to know.

Someone who cares will tell you things. They’ll tell you how ridiculous that parking ticket was; they’ll tell you a joke they found hilarious. Some people share more than others, but someone who cares will tell you things that matter to them, no matter how small that thing is.

Someone who cares will listen. Now, there are times when they won’t listen well. We all do that sometimes: we’re distracted, or so excited we talk over each other. But a person who cares will listen to you regularly, because your opinions matter to them. The things you say make some sort of impact on them – your opinions make them think, or make them laugh. But in their way, whatever that way is, they will listen.

Someone who cares wants to see you. They like spending time with you. It’s not hard to read the pleasure on their face in your company. Someone who doesn’t care is ambivalent, or pays attention only when it suits their selfish purposes.

A person who cares about you will take time for you. Even if it’s just a few times a year – that friend from your hometown, the one separated from you by an entire 2000 miles. When you’re home, they will want to see you. They’ll chat with you online, or maybe they’ll call you. Sometimes weeks or months might pass, but when it counts, if in your darkest hour you need them, they will respond, and will do so gladly.

Someone who cares will not make you feel bad for taking up said time. Although they might be busy, so are you. They will want to spend the time on you because that is just what you do when you care for someone. They won’t make you feel bad for asking to hang out, feel guilty that your time is less valuable than whatever else they are doing.